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Birth Story of a First Time Mama

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Birth Story of a First Time Mama | LionessDae.com
Let me preface this post by saying all women, labors and deliveries are different and unique. Mine was awesome and hope the same for every Mama that gives birth!
Now, where do I begin? I delivered at 41 weeks and 2 days. Lil Mama was comfy in her cozy sac and was not about this outside world life just yet. 
I saw the Midwife September 14th (40w3d) and asked to be measured. She was hesitant because she didn’t want me to be anxious or stressed. To everyone’s surprise I was 4cm dilated and 20% effaced! Mind you this is my first pregnancy. She said if baby didn’t debut by September 23rd (41w5d) she was gonna induce me. I did not want to be induced! I went back to work and my co-worker walked me all around campus trying to get this baby out. I looked at the calendar and said “she’s coming Saturday night/Sunday morning. She has to. She’ll come in the middle of the night so there’s no traffic getting to the hospital. I know she will, we already talked about it.” 
Because I knew she was coming that weekend I decided September 18th (41w0d) had to be my last day at work. I was beyond tired and swollen like a blimp. I told my supervisor not to expect me on Monday, cleaned off my desk and logged out of my computer. I got home and decided to wash my hair and get any last minute things done. Like I said baby and I talked about it, she was coming between Saturday night and Sunday morning.
While I was washing my hair the Midwife called and pushed up the induction date to September 21st (41w3d). I was so anxious! I had to get my baby to come out on her own. I was Google-ing and Pinterest-ing and decided to use a breast pump to induce labor.
I spent Saturday afternoon with the pump and had some contractions but when I stopped pumping the contractions stopped. I took a nap and started again late Saturday evening. This time it worked! B was coming through the door from work around 10:30pm and I was uncomfortable. The labor brought on the worst case of the trots. I had no idea I was in labor though. All my contractions felt like menstrual cramps and the Midwives told me they weren’t real contractions. Apparently they were.
Around midnight I was in pain. Not unbearable but definitely pain and I knew it was labor. I was having trouble staying out of the bathroom and my Lamaze videos didn’t prepare me for this. About 12:30am I tried some Lamaze positions and nothing helped. I tried a shower and could barely stand. I decided we had to get to the hospital fast! I threw a few things in my purse for B and I, threw on a maxi dress and some flip flops, grabbed a bottle of water and wobbled to the car. Thank goodness B got a space in front of the house! 
We had been timing contractions and they went from 8 minutes apart to 1 minute apart in about an hour. The ride downtown went so fast but never seemed so long. I delivered at the same hospital where I work so the route was very familiar. The more quiet I got the faster B drove. He ran just about every light! 
We got the hospital about 1:15am when I got out the car I felt so much pressure! I thought she was gonna drop out right there. The lady at the desk took forever to get a wheelchair! B kept telling me sit down and I was sure if I did the baby would drop out when I stood to get in the wheelchair. Meanwhile some jackass parking attendant was pressuring B to move the car from the driveway. B yelled “Can’t you see my lady is in labor! Have some courtesy! I’ll be back in a minute to move the damn car!” Finally in the wheelchair and up to L&D. 
The ladies at the desk were moving at a pace that seemed to be way too slow. They told B to move the car now so he didn’t miss anything. He left (which was scary as hell) and they wheeled me back to triage. The nurse was so freaking calm it was scary. I stood up out the wheelchair and my water broke! Finally! She was still scary calm! She helped me get undressed and a doctor came in. I’m yelling “no, I see the midwives, I want them” and they’re yelling back “just let us check you, we’ll get them.” 
I was 10cm dilated! It was go time! But where was B?! Running back from the car he parked three blocks away. When I was being wheeled from triage to a delivery room the lady behind the desk yelled “don’t worry, he’s back! I’m just getting him a bracelet!”
I remember seeing a clock as I was wheeled into delivery, it was about 1:34am. They hooked me up to all kinds of monitors and machines and I was so uncomfortable. A few more questions and it was time to push. I pushed because I felt the urge, I didn’t want to push to a timer. B kept telling me to breathe and I could do this. I told him to stop talking to me. I was so hot and thirsty! A nurse appeared with some ice chips and whispered “You can do it! You got it girl! Time to meet your baby.” Her voice was so angelic. It was like the whole room got quiet, all I could her was her. Then a oxygen mask came out of nowhere and that scared the shit out of me! What was happening?! Is she ok? Am I ok? Oh yeah, I have asthma, probably a precaution.
After 2 pushes her head was out and was tired! After 2 more pushes at 2:06am our baby was born!!!! I was exhausted. B was speechless and baby was hungry with the cord wrapped around her neck. No worries, she was and is as healthy as can be!
They layed her on my chest and I was in awe! I had a baby! I just gave birth! Like literally just pushed a baby out of my lady parts!…with no pain meds! Just like I wanted it. Words can’t even describe the feelings we felt that night. After she found her way to the boob and the umbilical cord stopped pulsating B cut the cord and I pushed out the afterbirth.
Now with all the technicalities out of the way, B turned on some music and we enjoyed our baby for a few. About 10 minutes later they weighed and measured her. 6lbs 4.9oz, 21in. 
As we took turns holding her B called his parents and I signed consent forms. You know the ones that give them permission to deliver your baby? Yeah, it went that fast!
Our lives changed forever that night and we’ll always cherish those moments.
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January 4, 2016
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What I Actually Used From My Hospital Bag

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What I Used From My Hospital Bag | LionessDae.com

First of all, I’m glad to be back blogging! If you’ve ever read my blog you know I was expecting a little princess in September. Well, she finally arrived on September 20th (9 days late) and she is beyond perfect! We’re so in love!

Now let’s get down to business. Remember I wrote all about packing my hospital bag? And my Midwife said “we have  everything you need, just bring what makes you comfortable.” She was so right! 

For me I packed:

  • Maxi dress for going home USED
  • Robe
  • 1 long nightgown
  • 1 shorter nightgown
  • 5 pairs of panties – I always over pack panties! USED 1 Pair for coming home
  • 3 nursing bras – 1 underwire (for going home) 2 without underwire USED underwire for coming home
  • Nursing pads
  • 1 towel, 3 washcloths, 1 pair of shower gloves USED the washcloths and towels
  • Flip flops (not pictured) USED

Toiletries Bag

  • Scarf for my hair at night
  • Comb, hair pins, bobby pins, hair ties
  • Lip balm
  • Body wash
  • Lotion USED
  • Deodorant USED
  • Kleenex – I’m a bit of a tissue snob
  • Facial wipes (not pictured)
  • Bar of soap (not pictured) USED
  • Toothbrush, toothpaste USED the toothbrush, their toothpaste was pretty good.

For the little one:

  • Newborn size outfit and sleeper – in case she’s under 8lbs USED the sleeper form coming home, the outfit wasn’t warm enough.
  • 0-3 month outfit – in case she’s over 8lbs
  • 3 month outfit – because it’s cute, warmer and she’s estimated to be a bigger baby
  • Nursing cover – in case we have a guest while I’m nursing
  • Receiving blanket – because hospital ones look scratchy
  • Burp cloth – not really sure why

I wore two hospital gowns during my stay, one open in the back and the other open in the front. These also served as a robe. It was also really easy to nurse with the hospital gowns. I wore the disposable panties provided by the hospital and used their nursing pads. I nursed so frequently that I went without a bra.

I did my hair two days before I went into to labor so none of the hair supplies were needed. I used the lip balm from my purse because it was closer to my bed. 

I kept the baby wrapped in hospital issued receiving blankets during our stay. That was the easiest option because we did so my skin to skin contact to keep her temperature up. I didn’t have many guests so I didn’t need the nursing cover. If I did nurse while a guest was in the room…oh well, they got a show. After so many staff coming in and out non-stop I really didn’t give a damn who saw my boobs.

Needless to say I over packed. My Midwife was right, they had all I needed…except a phone charger. My advice to first time Mamas, ask your provider or hospital staff. No need to stress or waste time packing a bag full of stuff you don’t need. Now will I take my own advice next time around? Probably, that way the bag can be smaller and less stuff to lug outta there when it’s time to leave. 

 

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October 14, 2015
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Book Alert: Chicken Soup for the Expectant Mother’s Soul

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Book Alert | LionessDae.com

I. Love. This. Book! I grabbed this sometime in the first trimester from Amazon and didn’t put it down for about a week. I continued reading into the second trimester but it I was so into it I wanted to read it while at work. Then I decided to purchase the Audible edition so I could listen while typing between meetings. Now in the third trimester, close to forth, I’m still enjoying it. 

*Beware, the Audible edition is abridged.
The stories are so heartwarming. I found myself crying happy tears while listening at work  and reading on the couch. The book features stories from both adoptive and birth Mamas and Papas.

Seeing as how this is my first time at the pregnancy ranch I was looking for a few good reads. The “instruction manuals”  didn’t tickle my fancy too tough so I was so happy to find this book. Let me know if you’ve read it and your thoughts. If you haven’t read it, grab it ASAP!

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September 16, 2015
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What I’ve Learned From Pregnancy

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A quick list of things I've learned from pregnancy. | LionessDae.com
Patience! More than anything I’ve learned to be more patient. I’m not sure if this is a common lesson learned, but by me being on bed rest I’ve had to slow down and allow others (mainly B) to do for me. That sounds awesome right? Only thing is I’m impatient as hell and prefer instant gratification.
Sometimes it’s the smallest things that made me realize I needed to change. Something so simple as how long he left dishes in the sink or how long he waited before doing laundry. Everyone isn’t like me. I had to learn that. It’s wasn’t the easiest lesson learned but I’m still working on it.
Selflessness. Ok, I’m not proclaiming that I’m completely selfless but I’m less selfish than I was a few months ago. Being on bed rest unexpectedly felt like someone snatched away my rights. Then to hear “You’ll be on bed rest until you deliver” (which turned out not to be the case) was…a bit devastating. I know I sound selfish but these were my honest feelings. I knew from the jump it was best for my baby but I had plans. 
This was my last Summer before having a baby. I wanted to leave work early on Fridays and enjoy the free festivals, take a road trip to the beach, eat at all the new restaurants Downtown, and shop the cute little boutiques for baby clothes. None of that happened. I wasn’t even allowed to drive! I literally did not drive my car from April to September! I spent my entire summer on the couch and when I realized this was my reality it was a bit upsetting.
I really had to work to get over it, and that wasn’t always easy. I had to find the bright side every time I felt down about it. The best outcome, I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant (which means bed rest did some good) and my baby and I are healthy. So healthy I was released from bed rest two weeks before my due date and sent back to work! I know, crazy!
Audacity. I have a family member that’s pretty much a bully. This person and I have had a on and off relationship for the past seven years. Like a dumb ass I always let her back into my life. This time around when the BS started I had to put on my big girl panties and cut the cord for good. I couldn’t allow my baby to feel the stress and anger this person brought into my life. The Lioness is me had to come out! As much as I don’t want to hurt peoples feelings (especially intentionally) I had to so she could get the point. Sad thing is, that was the most effective route. She still sends texts and tries to stir up more BS but I’ve learned to stand up for myself and my family. It feels awesome! I’ve also told other family members I’m no longer discussing the situation and not to ask me anymore damn questions. That feels awesome too!
Other things I’ve learned from pregnancy are how the body changes and fetal development but these three are what really got me through and I know they’ve made me a better me. I know all pregnancies are different and I look forward to learning valuable lessons from future pregnancies as well. What did you learn outside the normal that made you better?
LionessDae.com
September 4, 2015
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Hospital Bag Is Packed!

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What's In My Hospital Bag? | LionessDae.com

Time is winding down (2 more weeks!) and it’s high time I get prepared for my hospital stay.

Packing my hospital bag has been confusing! So many posts on Pinterest and way too many YouTube videos. I watched some vids where some women had like three bags packed! That was way too much for me. Luckily I came across a blog post a few weeks ago by a Labor & Delivery nurse who had thee best answer for packing a hospital bag: ask your provider. This was such a duh moment! 

At my next appointment I asked a Midwife and she put it very simple, bring what makes you feel comfortable. She said the hospital provides everything you need but if you prefer a certain body wash or shampoo, bring your own. That helped so freakin’ much!

Over the next few days I got all baby’s and my laundry done and set some things aside for the hospital bag.

For me I packed:

  • Maxi dress for going home
  • Robe
  • 1 long nightgown
  • 1 shorter nightgown
  • 5 pairs of panties – I always over pack panties!
  • 3 nursing bras – 1 underwire (for going home) 2 without underwire 
  • Nursing pads
  • 1 towel, 3 washcloths, 1 pair of shower gloves
  • Flip flops (not pictured)

Hospital Bag | LionessDae.com

Toiletries Bag

  • Scarf for my hair at night
  • Comb, hair pins, bobby pins, hair ties
  • Lip balm
  • Body wash
  • Lotion
  • Deodorant
  • Kleenex – I’m a bit of a tissue snob
  • Facial wipes (not pictured)
  • Bar of soap (not pictured)

Hospital bag | LionessDae.com

For the little one:

  • Newborn size outfit – in case she’s under 8lbs
  • 0-3 month outfit – in case she’s over 8lbs
  • 3 month outfit – because it’s cute, warmer and she’s estimated to be a bigger baby
  • Nursing cover – in case we have a guest while I’m nursing
  • Receiving blanket – because hospital ones look scratchy
  • Burp cloth – not really sure why

Hospital Bag | LionessDae

Hospital Bag | LionessDae.com

Hospital Bag | LionessDae.com

Hospital Bag | LionessDae.com

 

The bag – nothing special. I grabbed it on sale about two years ago for $10. Guess what? It’s never seen the gym!

 

Hospital Bag | LionessDae.com

I know, I know…I didn’t mean to pack so much but I always over pack. A few things I didn’t mention – a clean t-shirt, hair brush and throw for B. I’ve seen the shower at the hospital, it ain’t glamorous so I’m encouraging B to come home to shower and change. And of course we’ll be taking the car seat and canopy.

That’s it! I think it’s just enough. The Midwife said to expect a two night stay for a vaginal delivery and three nights for a c-section.

Let me know if you think it’s anything I’m missing or any secrets you have up your sleeve.

LionessDae.com

 

August 28, 2015
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