My Top 5 New Mom Concerns

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I swore being on bed rest would make time practically stand still but I was so wrong. Not only is it not standing still, it’s literally flying by! I was put on bed rest at 19 weeks 5 days and today I’m 29 weeks 3 days. 10 weeks have literally flown by and that means we could be meeting baby girl in about 6-10 weeks! Yikes!

Anyhoo, with all this free time to think clearly I’ve talked myself out of some panic attacks but I still have a few concerns. Before I was pregnant I thought “oh yeah, all these little cousins, friends with babies and Godchildren, I’ve got this covered!”. Then I quickly realized my little cousins aren’t so little anymore, the youngest Godchild is seven and none of my new friends have babies. Commence to panicking!

Concern #5

What if I drop her?

During the first trimester I had several dreams that I dropped my baby. I would wake up in the middle of the night scared. It was so bad I day dreamed it too. This has since stopped. I think after I saw and felt her moving around in my belly the fear just went away. Not to mention all the babies I’ve held over the years and have never dropped one! {sticks chest out proudly and pats self on back}

Concern #4

What if we don’t figure out what her cries mean?

I know she’ll cry, that’s her only way of communication. But what if it’s all the time, like nonstop and we cannot figure out what she needs? Will all her cries sound the same? How long will it take to learn which cry means what? I sure hope sooner than later. I don’t wanna wake up in the middle of the night and change her when she’s dry and hungry, or vice versa.

Concern #3

What if she never wants to be put down?

Now this is in the middle of the list because I know for sure we won’t want to put her down. But what if I’m home alone with her and need to shower? Or cook? Then what? I’m all for holding and snuggling my baby but mama will need to bathe or she might not want to be held.

I do plan to baby wear so I can move about the house and get small chores done.

Concern #2

What if she gets sick?

Not like sick sick but a cold, ear infection, gassy, you know, normal baby stuff? Will we know what to do? Will we be those psycho parents that call the pediatrician for every little cough or sneeze? Now, between me and you her daddy is a hypochondriac has hypochondriac like tendencies, so I’ll have to monitor his outgoing phone calls.

I remember when my younger brother was a baby, about three months or so, he cried ALL night one night, like no one slept. The next day after school my Grandma picked me up instead of my Mom, why because she couldn’t figure out why he wouldn’t stop crying so she took him to the ER. Outcome, ear infection. Which takes me back to #4.

See, my concerns are legitimate!

Concern #1

Breastfeeding

I hear it hurts like hell! But I’ll tell you one thing, I’m determined to do it! Worst case scenario, I’ll pump and bottle feed but definitely no formula for us. Now by no means am I knocking moms that formula feed, I just don’t prefer it. 

 

So there you have it, my new mom concerns. While these five things concern me a bit, I’ve been focusing my thoughts and energy on everything working out just fine. You know, like perfect. Did you (or do you) have any concerns the first time around? Or even the second time? Let me know below in the comments. Oh, and any advice you have to offer is greatly appreciated too!

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June 29, 2015
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16 Comments

  • Reply Sheryl

    First of all, calm down. As scary as a baby is, you will be just fine.
    *You won’t drop her. You are going to be super careful and that won’t happen.
    *You will figure out what her cries mean. They will be slightly different. At first they will sound the same. You will use process of elimination and figure out what the problem is.
    *If she doesn’t want to be put down, hold her. For us, the swing was a miracle worker. So I would suggest getting one.
    *If she gets sick you call the pediatrician. Most have 24-7 on call services. They are accustomed to new parents calling a lot. They are awesome about helping to determine if your baby is sick, tired, teething, colicky, etc.
    *Breastfeeding is not easy. “They” say it is natural for mother and child. I breastfed both my boys and with both we had to learn how to work together. Go to a breastfeeding class at the hospital you plan to deliver your sweet bundle. They more than likely will offer lamaze, new parent, breastfeeding, infant care, new dad, etc. classes. Sign up for all that apply. They are super helpful.

    You are going to be a great mom. I know this because you are already thinking like one. Always worried and thinking about baby. Just take it one thing at a time. Seek advice from the pediatrician and lactation specialists. You family will more than likely try to tell you how to do things. Ignore them. What worked for them may not work for you. Things change over time, too. When my mom was a baby they would put alcohol on the babies gums to help with teething. Not a plan I was going to follow! LOL

    So, take it easy. Relax. You will have plenty of time for worries as your daughter grows. Enjoy this time with your husband. Soon you will not have time for each other. That will subside after a bit. You will go through transition. This is a huge change for both of you.

    Best wishes!! You are going to be a wonderful mama.
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    June 30, 2015 at 11:14 AM
    • Reply Dae

      Thanks so much Sheryl! our advice makes me feel a lot better!

      June 30, 2015 at 1:49 PM
  • Reply Katy

    Hi there, sweet kindred mom of mine. Accurate list – totally get it. But you know what I didn’t see … “will she be loved?” You know why – because the answer is clearly yes. She is profoundly loved and adored by you – otherwise all these other fears wouldn’t exist. Us Moms can be so hard on ourselves that we stop and forget to give ourselves the grace that we offer so freely. You are doing awesome, Momma. Just keep loving her and that’s all that matters!! 🙂

    June 30, 2015 at 12:40 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Thanks Katy! I have been hard on myself lately. I guess being stranded in the house all the time doesn’t help.

      June 30, 2015 at 1:51 PM
  • Reply Becki

    Congratulations on your little one on the way! Can’t wait to read more about your journey. I am certain you will be a wonderful mom.
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    June 30, 2015 at 12:41 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Thanks Becki!

      June 30, 2015 at 1:51 PM
  • Reply Zan

    It is natural to have concerns for your little ones….so helpless. But don’t worry, it will all work out and you will know the meaning of her cries. All the best to you!
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    June 30, 2015 at 2:08 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Thanks Zan! I’m slowly coming down off the ledge.

      June 30, 2015 at 2:10 PM
  • Reply Dayne

    When my ex-boyfriend’s mother had a baby, I was terrified of holding him! I was so scared I was going to drop him! The fear is real!
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    June 30, 2015 at 3:02 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Yeah, it can be.

      June 30, 2015 at 9:02 PM
  • Reply The Unperfect Family

    Trust me, as a mother, those will no longer be your major concerns. Yes, breastfeeding may be an ongoing concern, but the others – just forget about them! Instincts will kick in, you’ll protect her from everything you can (and try to protect her from things you can’t)…it will come to you. Just relax.

    Things you’ll really start worrying about: how to pay for things, will I ever sleep again, when was the last time I showered, will my boobs ever bounce back….
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    June 30, 2015 at 7:05 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Notice these are my top five concerns…those are on my list too! Thanks for stopping by!

      June 30, 2015 at 9:03 PM
  • Reply Ashley

    Congrats! 😉 those are some of the same concerns I have had with both my girls. We are mamas we are supposed to worry!

    June 30, 2015 at 11:08 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Thanks Ashley!

      July 1, 2015 at 3:53 PM
  • Reply Irion

    Everything you listed are valid concerns, but I’m here to tell you to caaaalm doooowwnnn lol. Everything will come naturally to you. You won’t have to learn her cries, when you hear them you’ll just know what they mean. Even if she cries uncontrollably for a loooonnnggg time, you’ll probably know why. It’s crazy how connected moms are with their kids. I can’t even explain it. Anyway, you’ll do fine as a new mom. Oh and nursing never hurt for me. Only when my breast were super full & I couldn’t feed or pump, or when my nipples would get dry and cracked. Keep some Lanolin handy and you won’t have to worry about the nipple thing lol.
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    July 2, 2015 at 3:11 PM
    • Reply Dae

      Thanks Irion! I’ll be stopping by your blog for more advice!

      July 3, 2015 at 7:33 PM

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